Eight women who decided to propose – BBC News

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Jessica( not her real name) is about to ask her boyfriend to marriage her – 29 February is a date when, according to tradition, females can propose to their partners. While Jessica prepares for the big moment, she and seven other women who popped the question share their narratives.

“We’ve talked about marriage a lot and we know we want to get married but I decided to do it on 29 February, since that’s true to tradition, ” tells Jessica, who lives in Bristol.

She has had photos taken of her stands at five places in the city that are meaningful to her and her boyfriend, holding up signs that spell out, “Will you marry me? “

After showing her partner the photos, she plans to get down on one knee and propose, then take him to a local pub where their friends and family will be waiting.

She has even had jewellery specially made, melting an old involvement ring passed down by her family, and using some of the gold in a bangle for him and a ring for herself.

“It’s nerve-wracking but exciting, ” she tells. “It’s been quite hard to keep it a secret – I think in some ways he knows something’s happens now, but he doesn’t know how it’ll happen yet.”

But Jessica is still an exception to the rule. In a US survey by AP, nearly one in four people said they felt it was not acceptable for a woman to propose. And out of the respondents who were already married, only 5% said the woman was the one to propose.

We’ll let you know how Jessica get on later in the day – but for now here’s what happened when seven other women asked their partners to marriage them.

The underwater proposal: Emilia Ribeiro – Sao Jose does Campos , Brazil

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Rodrigo and I had lived together for five years when I proposed. Neither of us are really into words, so I wanted to propose in a way that would be symbolic, but also speech-less.

We went on a guided scuba diving tour in a river in Bonito. It ends up below a waterfall, where it’s like you’re under a curtain of bubbles.

The diving master helped me conceal the ring in the scuba diving equipment, then when we were behind the waterfall I swam towards Rodrigo with the ring. He was really surprised!

Everybody thought it was a cool notion – firstly because I proposed, and secondly because it was underwater.

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We’re now married but Rodrigo likes to joke that he never said actually yes to my proposal[ since we were underwater at the time ].

Society is designed so “the mens” needs to propose to the woman – but “the mens” proposing doesn’t construct your wedding more or less romantic.

Women need to be confident – people can garbage so much hour thinking, “When is he going to propose to me? ” and creating lots of expectations. I think if you want something done, you can go out there and do it yourself.

The bangle: Ally Richardson – Birmingham, UK

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Image caption Ally and Chester had been together for three years when she proposed

Proposing is something I’d thought about doing for quite a long time. I realised I’d been, on some level, waiting for my partner to propose, then it passed to me that I was ready to construct that step and it felt quite silly to just wait and see if it would happen.

I expended a while thinking about what to get him. It didn’t feel appropriate to propose to him and say: “Now can you get me a ring? ” I settled on a bangle with several rings on it.

On the morning of project proposals I felt very nervous, even though I knew it was probably going to be a yes.

I still felt shaky and had butterflies in my belly. I was fretted he might be upset I’d taken the opportunity to propose away from him.

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I constructed him breakfast and presented him the bangle, and told: “Will you marry me? “

I think he was very surprised – he wasn’t sure if it was a joke! He seemed shocked in a happy style and quite surprised.

When people found out we were engaged they’d always ask me how he popped the question. They’re often quite disconcerted when I say I was actually the one to propose – not because they have set attitudes but because it’s just what people expect.

I’d definitely recommend it to others. You give up the excitement of having someone propose to you, but it’s a great feeling to be able to show someone you love that you feel that style.

The blanket fort: Brooke Armstrong Pazoles, Baltimore, US

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Matt and I had been dating a long time and lived together – we were in a fairly committed relationship.

Two summers ago, I was going through a really stressful couple of months. I went home one night and all I could do was lie on the floor and cry.

Matt found me on the floor, and asked me: “What do you need? ” Eventually he told, “What if I build a blanket fort for you? ”

He built me a great fort with blankets in our room, and we lay in there for a while until I calmed down. I thought to myself, “Someone who constructs me a blanket fort when I’m stressed is person I want to hang on to.”

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So I asked him to marry me. I was a little bit nervous.

His response was: “Is this for real? ”

We both started laughter and the nervousness went away. I told “Yes, ” and he told “Yes.”

He also wanted to propose because he didn’t want to miss out so he arranged a traditionally bred proposal a few weeks later.

I guess we technically both proposed to each other but I did it first! We got married in September.

The big astonish: Flavia Massucatto – Sorocaba, Brazil

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There is a bar called Berlin in Sorocaba which Diogo and I always frequented. There is a big square in front of the bar so I decided to propose there.

On the night of the proposal, I arrived at the bar with Diogo and some friends who knew about the surprise.

Then I invented an excuse and left the bar. I went to the square where all our family and friends were concealing with heart balloons, photographers, and a microphone and sound system.

I’d already agreed things with the owner of the bar – a waiter came to the table and told Diogo his car was involved in a crash outside. So he left the bar to check on his car – and to his astonish, insured all of our family and friends there, and me proposing to him.

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Image caption Diogo left the bar expecting to see his car injury …
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Image caption … and instead encountered his family and friends – and a proposal from his girlfriend

I was very very nervous but very happy too. I didn’t get down on one knee because I was wearing a dress but I was very sincere.

Diogo was always a special human for me – he is a great person, a great son, a great brother and a great friend. I thought he deserved a special moment.

He was astounded – he told me that he never believed I would propose. It was so exciting and cute, and a few months later, we got married.

The pizza proposal: Jenny Fawson – Briton currently living in Bochum, Germany

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Simon and I were going home after a weekend with married friends.

We were strolling along the main road in the dark and the rainfall, and trying to figure out what takeaway to get. We were choosing between McDonald’s and Pizza when I just said, “Should we get married? “

I felt a little nervous as I asked but it was very spontaneous – you feel a rush, a bit of a release, and it’s very exciting.

Simon was astounded, but he told “Yes” and we kissed. Then we went home and sat at home eating pizza, both a bit stunned and overwhelmed by what had just happened!

We’d talked about marriage early on in our relationship, but we both knew that he was ready and I required some more hour, so it was probably always me who’d have to propose.

Seeing friends who had been married for a few years and assuring how it had worked for them constructed me appear afresh at wedding and decide to revisit the idea.

Nearly derailed by a snowstorm: Emily Vana – Pittsburgh, US

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Image caption Emily Guhl and Emily Vana( right)

My fiancee, Emily Guhl, is more traditional than me, so I felt it was important to her in order to be allowed to get down on one knee and propose.

I expended a long time saving up fund for the ring. We’re fairly aware of each other’s finances and pay all our bills together, so if a large amount of fund went missing she would have known.

We are both originally from Chicago, so I planned a weekend back there for the two of us in January 2015.

Emily loves skylines, so we booked flying lessons with a private plane and I was going to propose to her in the air. However, it being Chicago, a giant snowstorm derailed that plan.

We aimed up going down to the planetarium, which has the most amazing view of the skyline. I set up my phone to take automatic scenes, and get down on one knee and proposed.

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It was definitely nerve-wracking – not because I wasn’t sure what Emily would say, but because I felt so much pressure to do something memorable.

It aimed up working out well – we’re getting married in April.

‘I proposed with a fruit pastille’ – Kimberley Evans, Cambridge, UK

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Nicholas and I were on holiday in Croatia and decided to go up this mountain route. Two and a half hours of climbing afterward there were stunning positions, and we chose we wouldn’t go any further.

We sat down, and it was just beautiful. The view was fantastic, we were all on our own, and I realised this was the perfect moment.

So I asked him: “Do you want to get married so we can do this more often? “

I didn’t have anything prepared because I hadn’t planned to propose to him – so I proposed with a fruit pastille!

I didn’t have time to be nervous. I ran from thinking, “This would be a perfect time to ask, ” to asking him, in the space of about two seconds.

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When we walked back up the mountain we talked about all the other various proposals we’d thought about that didn’t happen.

I had thought about making a cake and having it written on the cake, and we had both believed to be proposing at a gig we went to before our holiday but they didn’t play our ballad.

Everyone was really happy we were engaged, although apparently one of my aunts was frightened because women proposing isn’t the done thing, apparently!

Plenty of people have asked him if he felt surprised I proposed and he told both yes and no because somehow it only felt right.

Wedding photo politenes of Akio Iwano Photography , Callum Pinkney Photography , and LinaandTom.com

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